I lost my wife of 18 years and was instantly thrust into single parenthood of four young kids. But with hard work, and the support of others, we have regained our lives and are thriving again.
This book was born out of necessity. Most people who have dealt with a devastating loss don't like to talk about it or share their stories. This means that no one else learns from them about ways to cope. I want to change that.
Thus, my mission of writing the book is to help at least one person. I want to reach as many people as possible to tell them to be ready for loss. This book will share what I've experienced, what I wish I would have known AHEAD of time, and how to deal with it afterward from a survivor's point of view.
Also included, tips on how to act and what to say to a bereaved person.
A special section written by one of my daughters, who was only 12 when her mother died, called "Through a Child's Eyes" describes what it's like to lose a mother at such a young age.
When you do encounter a loss, don't go it alone. It's too hard, and there are always resources available. I hope this will be one of them.
"This is a beautiful read, born from a love story that ended too soon that evolved into a mission to help others lessen the deep pains of tragedy and loss"
"You don't have to be suffering from a tragic loss to appreciate the life lessons in this book...I love how he is so honest and vulnerable about the process he is going through and it comes across as a remarkably healthy approach. A strong lesson for all of us"
"I never stopped reading once I started...This book will keep you thinking long after you are finished"
"I purchased the book and both myself and my wife read it. It was a quick read, didn't take me even three hours. My wife read it first and when she was done for some reason gave me a list of things to do with all of our financials. After reading it myself I knew why she had me do all of those things. We both have life insurance policies that we purchased when we bought our first home and had each other listed as beneficiaries. Needless to say its 27 years later and we have two boys who are already adults. IF anything happened to both of us everything would have been done through the courts. We have taken steps to get all of this taken care of and Steve's book was the kick in the pants that got us moving."